We asked women in Northern Ireland living with chronic pain to tell us what they would like people to know about their daily lives.
Diagnosis can take a long time
"As a student at Queen’s, I had to go to my tutor’s office every semester and explain that I was sick – but no one understood why. When I was finally diagnosed with endometriosis it was a relief because I could go to disability services and get the support I needed." - Robyn, Newtownards
We may look fine but that doesn’t mean we feel fine
“If you had your foot in plaster, people would be sympathetic. But with a condition like fibromyalgia, because they can’t see the pain, they don’t get the fact that you’re unwell.” - Sharon, Lisburn
We can feel great one hour and terrible the next
“Sometimes you may have a lot of pain in one week or you might get a break, you just don’t know. Right now, I feel a little better but, in a few hours, I could have agonising back pain.” - Beata, Lisburn
It’s not just “all in my head”
“I had heavy periods throughout high school due to endometriosis and would even pass out with stomach cramps. Yet some people thought I was doing it for the attention.” - Robyn, Newtownards
Our illness isn’t always down to being old or overweight
“People assume I can’t carry heavy bags because I’m overweight or unfit when in fact, it’s because of the pain from my fibromyalgia. It makes me feel intolerant of people and I don’t like that.” - Avril, Lisburn
We wish we didn’t have to cancel plans
“When my endometriosis was at its worst, I was constantly exhausted and needed a few days to prepare for things that used to be easy, like shopping trips in Belfast with friends.” - Robyn, Newtownards
Tactless comments can be upsetting
“Shortly after I had to quit my job due to a painful back, a colleague texted to say, “Why don’t you just come back to work?” She doesn’t realise how hard it is to work when you’re constantly in pain.” - Beata, Lisburn
It can be hard on your self-esteem
“I went from being a keen runner, horse-rider and swimmer to feeling constantly tired due to my fibromyalgia and arthritis. Sometimes I feel sad that I’m not the active, outgoing person I used to be.” - Janis, Lisburn
There’s more to us than just our illnesses
“Sometimes people only ask me about my health. There’s more to me than my illness and I don’t ever ‘play the sick card’ so it makes me feel frustrated.” - Robyn, Newtownards
It could happen to you and it will change your life
“A few hours can change everything. You shouldn’t take a pain-free life for granted because you never know what’s around the corner.” - Irene, Lisburn
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We'd like to thank the Resurgam Trust in Lisburn and Robyn Atcheson for taking part in this article.
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